Worried about someone else’s drinking?

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Talking to someone close to you about their drinking can be a difficult conversation, but it can be a really important first step.

There are a few things you can do to make the discussion open, honest and helpful:

  • Think about what you’re going to say
  • Try and be as calm and positive as you can
  • Find the right moment – speak to them when they’re sober and seem open to talking
  • Start your sentences with “I” – talk about your concerns and worries – “I feel really worried about you”
  • Avoid sentences that start with ‘you” as it can come across as blaming them – “you’re a mess…”
  • Be patient – allow them plenty of time to think and respond
  • Try to listen to what they’re saying without judging
  • Be ready for a negative reaction or for them to become defensive. It might feel like they’re being aggressive but it’s more likely they feel threatened, guilty or shamed
  • Suggest sources of support – have details of support services ready when you speak to them. In North Somerset, We Are With You can help


We Are With You can also help you if you’re worried about someone else’s drinking and you need support.